As we were winding down for the evening the other day, Sean
called Hudson into the playroom to help clean up. Though Hudson walked into the
room, he wasn’t really helping with much. I’m pretty sure both he and Sean were
overwhelmed by the task at hand. After all – Hudson knows how to put the CAR in
CARpet. They were everywhere!
Sean started cleaning up train tracks while he had Hudson
focus on putting his Hot Wheels in his toy chest. The problem is that when
Hudson starts collecting his cars to clean-up, he remembers how fun they are to
play with! Needless to say, he gets off track and it takes longer than it
should to clean-up. In all honesty – it would probably take Sean and I two
minutes to get the job done, but it’s a value in our family to teach personal
responsibility. And when you’re 3, personal responsibility means putting your
toys away.
After several attempts at trying to keep Hudson focused, we
all started getting frustrated. Before giving up, I decided to try one last
tactic. I said, “Hudson, FIRST we need to clean up cars and THEN we can play
hide-n-seek.” Immediately his attention perked up and cars started flying into
the toy chest. The reason he wasn’t helping us before was because he wasn’t
motivated. Until he knew what was coming next, the task at hand seemed
purposeless.
This week – there have been times when I have felt like I
needed to know the next step…or two…or three. I’m a planner. I tend to deal
better with change when I know what is coming. It gives me a chance to prepare
myself emotionally. If you ever drive somewhere new with me, then be prepared
to call out at least the upcoming three moves on MapQuest directions. When I
have to have a difficult conversation with someone, I’m the type of person that
plans for multiple outcomes to the conversation. “If they say this, then I’ll
say that. But if they say that, then I’ll say this.” And my husband can attest
that I am the type of person that asks questions at the movies (quietly mind
you); even if neither of us has seen the movie. “Who is that? Why are they
doing that? Are they a good guy or a bad guy?”
Most of the questions rolling around in my mind recently
have had to do with the future. Are we on track in life? Are we going to be in
Vegas forever? Are we going to have more children? Should I start working
again? Are we ever going to have a house? If I knew what was on the horizon,
then I could start moving in the right direction. But alas, I don’t have the
answers to these questions. Therefore, I don’t know the next steps that I’m
supposed to take. *Sigh*
However, I am trying to grow in living out the Biblical
philosophy of worry. The Message translation of Matthew 6:34 says, “Give your
entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about
what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard
things come up when the time comes.” Ultimately, when we spend our time
worrying – we miss out on the blessings, the grace, and the joy that comes with
each day. And with a special kid like Hudson – my day is filled with lots of
moments of joy.
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